I am currently a 28 year old female, earning an attractive monthly salary, driving comfortably in my brand new drop top car. I have a white-gold, diamond ring on my finger and I am engaged to one of the most handsome, caring, honest men in South Africa. He had taken me to Phuket a few months ago where he proposed to me…. DREAM! … REALITY…I am nowhere near there yet and I am trying my very best to get a good tertiary education and raise myself from this nineteen year old student into becoming a responsible and mature adult – obviously in the attempt – to make that dream a proven reality.”
My big sister had told me this a few days ago and I realised that the potential to engage in imagining your dreams as a future possibility, is inevitable. However, the uphill battle to make those embedded dreams a reality takes time, effort and perseverance.
I am one look at my own life and imagine what it would be like in the future, and according to people who have gone through life already, it does help to have a vision as to what we would like to see ourselves doing later on in life. The steamy question that rigidly attacks us is “What would really make us happy?” Dreams can help to establish that, and is a huge stepping stone when an individual is young because it helps us in guiding our path. However, we cannot dream unrealistically, because just around the corner of our oh-so-pleasant dreams lurks something that we have to face, REALITY. We could dream for our lives to be as glamorous as an American celebrity but Reality whispers to us that not everyone was born to be that way.
There are other unrealistic dreams that can be noted. For example, because we are surrounded by technology and innovation, the average person living in the CBD of a country swarming with cars such as, say, New York City, may have the dream, and be hopeful of, perhaps, in the next year or two that 90% of the people on this planet could actually own cars. In reality, the current percentage of people who own and drive cars is a mere 8-9% of the global population. There is no way that the percentage will escalate to even 50% in the next year or two.
There are numerous examples of dreams versus reality situations, be it personally or on a global scale. There’s no point in dreaming that you will one day win the lottery because the words “tata ma chance, tata ma millions” speak for themselves! Dreams of winning the lottery only becomes a reality by virtue of chance and luck! As South African students we know where our abilities reside, we know our strengths and weaknesses, and we have an idea as to how much we are willing to push ourselves in the direction of our own success.
I know that I am currently amongst a group of students who all have certain dreams that they are trying to pursue. As a bright and vibrant group, I see that we could all reach our very best eventually, simply by the sacrifices we make and our perseverance that enables us to get through our schooling career successfully. We will have to use that same degree of perseverance and willingness to go move forward when in the tertiary sector and working world. We all have dreams, right? Perhaps to drive a certain vehicle? To own a business? Maybe it is to travel or live in another country? Close your eyes for just 10 seconds and go to the place you want to be in the future. It feels great? Right? …..but, of course, dreams can be achieved if it’s within the boundaries of your own untapped potential. This may sound confusing, but look at it in this light – if you dream to look different, be a different skin colour, race or ethnicity, have different biological parents or dream to have been born into a different home, the reality of the situation is that these kinds of dreams are unrealistic.
Dreams and reality have to have a ‘hand-in-glove’ relationship – a relationship that is knitted together which ensures a dream can be made into a reality. By reaching into your dreams and unleashing the untapped potential built in you, you can achieve your dreams and become the individual you wish to be.
I would like to end with saying something that I took from my sister’s words and used as a bit of advice. We have to try our very best to get a good tertiary education and raise ourselves from teenage students into becoming responsible and mature adults – obviously in the attempt – to make our dreams a proven reality. We don’t have the time to be hopeful with luck, chance, wishful thinking or unrealistic dreams…
As I have mentioned before, all that is needed to make a realistic dream into a reality is time, effort and perseverance.